If you are reading this, you have likely agreed to lead a small group through this study. Thank you! What you have chosen to do is important and will produce good fruit in the lives of the men you’re guiding and serving. While the impact of this study on the group is ultimately not up to you, your role as a shepherd shows the men how to connect with one another in ways that are just as important as the questions and discussion. Your relational style demonstrates how to give and receive in relationship with other Christian brothers.

Toward this goal of facilitating deep, impactful relationships, Formative Community is a nine-session study built around this curriculum and small-group interactions facilitated by The Redeemed. This is where you come in. You have probably participated in a small group with The Redeemed already, as well as been trained to lead a small group. As the group leader, you are invited to see yourself as the host of a gathering in your home, welcoming the other men and showing them warmth, acceptance, enthusiasm, and hospitality. Your job is to take care of your guests by managing all the behind-the-scenes details so that when everyone comes together each week, they can just enjoy one another and the discussions you help facilitate.

As the group leader, your role is not to cover (or answer) all the questions or teach in-depth about the focus of each session. Your job is to guide the experience and cultivate your small group into safe, welcoming community where participants can relax and be known for who they are. This is why your group sessions should focus on the process and what’s taking place presently in your group each week. Your role is not to teach, instruct, or force anything to happen. Instead, you model the kind of vulnerability, appropriate sharing, and attuned engagement you hope the men will want to risk with one another.

With this goal in mind, make sure everyone in the group has access to this curriculum and help any participants who have questions and concerns. Group members should feel free to keep an online journal just for their experience in this group, or they could print it at a local print shop. If cost is a concern and a participant needs a printed copy, please let us know, and we will send one to them. Encourage them to bring it with them every week in case they want to refer to previous notes or questions as well as jot down new ones. This will keep everyone on the same page and help the process run more smoothly. Continuity and pacing help set the tone for each group session. You want your guys to feel like they’re all on equal footing and valued for their contributions. Giving everyone access to all the material is a vital and practical way to ensure this group experience is worthwhile for each man.

Setting the Tone

As group leader, you’ll want to create a virtual environment that’s conducive to sharing and learning. This means making sure everyone knows how to access and utilize the operational aspect of logging in and joining the online group room each week. You may want to make suggestions or set guidelines about how to make sure backgrounds are not too noisy, busy, or distracting. You will likely want to offer a relaxed system or protocol for making sure everyone gets to talk and interact rather than talking over each other. Thinking through these practicalities ahead of time will make your group time more efficient and natural.

Your tone of voice, volume, demeanor, and body language are also important to consider as you set the mood for the group. You want to make it clear that you’re taking group time seriously by being prepared while being present and attuned to the group dynamics each session. This may require you to diverge from this curriculum and focus on one aspect or big idea for most of the session or to focus on one or two members who are clearly struggling or in crisis. You want to serve as a leader who’s confident in the game plan while attentive enough to call an audible.

Leading Your Group

Once everyone has arrived, it is time to begin the group. Whether you are new to small-group leading or an experienced leader, here are some simple tips to make your group time healthy, enjoyable, and effective.

First, consider beginning the meeting with a word of prayer, and remind the group members to silence and put away their mobile phones. This is a way to say “yes” to being present to one another and to God.

Next, allow one or two minutes per person for the “Checking In” time. You may need less time in session one, but after that people will likely need more time to share their insights from the Between-Sessions activities (see below). Usually you won’t answer the discussion questions yourself, but you should go first with the “icebreaker” question, answering briefly and with a reasonable amount of self-disclosure.

After the “Checking In” time, your group will move into “Exploring the Big Idea,” which allows you to emphasize the main point(s) of this session’s study. Next, you explore a relevant biblical passage by “Considering the Word” and then apply it by “Discussing the Truth.” Keep in mind that this is not intended to be a Bible study. Your role is only to open up conversation by using the material provided and inviting the group to engage.

During the group discussion, encourage everyone to participate, but make sure everyone knows (especially as the questions become more personal) that he does not have to do so. As the discussion progresses, follow up with comments such as, “Tell me more about that,” or, “Why did you answer the way you did?” This will allow participants to deepen their reflections and will invite meaningful sharing in a nonthreatening way.

Note that you have been given multiple questions to use in each session, and you do not have to use them all or even follow them in order. Feel free to pick and choose questions based on either the needs of your group or how the conversation is flowing. Also, don’t be afraid of silence. Offering a question and allowing up to thirty seconds of silence is okay. It allows people space to think about how they want to respond and also gives them time to do so.

As group leader, you are the boundary keeper for your group. Do not let anyone (yourself included) dominate the group time. Keep an eye out for group members who might be tempted to “attack” folks they disagree with or try to “fix” those having struggles. These kinds of behaviors can derail a group’s momentum, so they need to be shut down. If that happens, try to kindly but clearly redirect them in the moment. You might say something like, “Thanks for sharing what worked for you, but let’s stay away from recommending fixes for now,” or, “Hey, I don’t think that’s going to make this is welcoming space for everyone—let’s stay focused on the question here.” If this continues to be an issue, consider connecting with that member outside of the group or reviewing The Redeemed’s small group guidelines together. Model active listening and encourage everyone in your group to do the same. This will make your group time a safe space and foster the kind of community that God can use to change people.

After the group discussion time, you move into a “Wrap-up Activity” that facilitates participants considering what they will take away from the session and how they will apply it to their lives. You then conclude your session with group prayer. Encourage the men to pray for one another during the interval between sessions and let them know you are praying for them as well.

Also, it may be helpful to take time before or after the closing prayer to go over that week’s Between-Sessions activities. This will allow people to consider what they would like to try or ask any questions they have so everyone can depart in confidence. You will also want to ask the men to read through the material for the next session prior to the group meeting.

Sharing Between-Sessions Reflections

Each week, group members are invited to complete the between-sessions personal reflection exercise. Try to help them see the benefit of this personal time outside of group as a way to explore what’s going on inside them and what God might be showing them. Your job at the beginning of each week’s session is to help the men debrief the previous week’s experience during the “Checking In” section. You don’t want this to consume too much time, but you want to offer the opportunity for participants to share their process with the group.

Debriefing something like this is a bit different from responding to questions based solely on content ideas and Scripture, because this comes from the participants’ lives in real time. The basic experiences that you want the group to reflect on are:

• What brought you joy?

• What was the hardest thing you faced?

• What did you learn about yourself?

• What did you learn about God?

While there are specific debriefing questions written to help process each activity these four areas are what the “Checking In” time is designed to explore. Feel free to direct it accordingly while staying mindful of your time for each session.

So much of your leadership comes from just your willingness to love and serve the men entrusted to you in your group. Thank you again for taking the time to lead them in pursuit of authentic relationships and a deeper faith. May God bless your efforts and dedication and make your time together in Formative Community rewarding for each man, including you, and fruitful for his kingdom.

Outlines for Sessions

The following outlines are provided to give you an idea how to focus and use your group time as effectively as possible. While these are not rigid guidelines, they can help you manage the pace to ensure the main points get covered and that everyone engages and participates. These are simply provided to help support your own sense of how to structure your group’s time together for the greatest personal and communal impact.

CONTENTS

Session 1: Know Your Goal

Session 2: Promote Safety

Session 3: Forge Brotherhood

Session 4: Awaken Your True Self

Session 5: Live by the Unbreakable Code

Session 6: Ignite Your Fire

Session 7: Create Room for Others

Session 8: Be Consistent and Continual

Session 9: Support the Game Plan

Session 1: Know Your Goal

INTRODUCTIONS (20 MINUTES)

• Name: Each participant shares their name.

• Location: Where are you currently located?

GUIDELINES (5 MINUTES)

Review The Redeemed’s discussion guidelines together, discussing what goes into establishing a safe, open environment. (We encourage you to email them the guidelines in advance.)

• Confidentiality: What’s shared in the group stays in the group.

• Respectful listening: Give each person time to speak without interrupting.

• Authenticity: Encourage vulnerability and honesty, without judgment.

• Participation: Everyone is encouraged to share but not forced to speak.

WEEKLY STRUCTURE OVERVIEW (5 MINUTES)

Each session will include:

• Opening: Welcome, announcements, and check-in

• Weekly Discussion: Engaging with the material

• Prayer: Sharing prayer requests and closing in prayer

• How can we pray for you?

WEEKLY DISCUSSION (25 MINUTES)

Opening Quote

“Look carefully at the closest associations in your life, for that is the direction you are headed.”

— Kevin Eikenberry

GETTING STARTED

Direction determines destination. Your decision to join this group matters because it impacts where you are headed. This small group is about forging meaningful connections with other men, stepping beyond surface-level friendships, and embracing authenticity.

Take a moment to reflect:

• What drew you to participate in this small group at this time?

• Who is your favorite fictional friendship duo (e.g., Frodo and Samwise, Holmes and Watson, Deadpool and Wolverine)? What about their relationship resonates with you?

EXPLORING THE BIG IDEA

The Redeemed values relationships, connection, and community as foundational to Christian brotherhood. This nine-week journey will encourage vulnerability, challenge stereotypes about masculinity, and cultivate real friendships rooted in faith. Our five core values:

• Awaken Your True Self: Foster genuine connections.

• Forge Brotherhood: Build a strong community.

• Ignite Your Fire: Strive for lasting transformation.

• Promote Safety: Create a secure space for growth.

• Live by the Word: Ground everything in biblical truth.

Discussion Questions:

• What thoughts and emotions arise as you consider The Redeemed’s mission?

• Which of the five core values resonates most with you right now?

CONSIDERING THE WORD

Ecclesiastes 4:8-12

There was a man all alone; he had neither son nor brother. There was no end to his toil, yet his eyes were not content with his wealth.

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:

If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.

Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.

But how can one keep warm alone?

Though one may be overpowered, two

can defend themselves. A cord of three

strands is not quickly broken.

Discussion Questions:

• What word or phrase stands out to you in this passage?

• When have you felt like the man in verse 8—working hard but feeling alone?

• Why does Ecclesiastes say “two are better than one”? What benefits of friendship do you want to experience?

DISCUSSING THE TRUTH

Loneliness is an epidemic. Many men lack deep, authentic friendships despite having acquaintances. Societal expectations often discourage vulnerability, leading to isolation. However, Scripture highlights the importance of strong male friendships (e.g., David and Jonathan, Paul and Silas).

Discussion Questions:

• How do you see your own need for relationships and community?

• What challenges have made it difficult for you to develop authentic friendships?

• Which biblical friendships do you admire, and why?

WRAP-UP DISCUSSION

• What stood out to you from today’s discussion?

• What is one personal goal you have for the next nine weeks?

• How can this group support and encourage you?

CLOSING IN PRAYER (5 MINUTES)

• Share prayer requests.

• Pray together, asking for wisdom, compassion, and courage as the group grows in community and faith.

Session 2: Promote Safety

OPENING (10 MINUTES)

• Welcome and any announcements

• Introductions if there is someone who was not at the first session

• Quickly review guidelines together

WEEKLY DISCUSSION (45 MINUTES)

Opening Quote

“Being able to feel safe with other people is probably the single most important aspect of mental health; safe connections are fundamental to meaningful and satisfying lives.”

–Bessel A. van der Kolk, MD, The Body Keeps the Score

GETTING STARTED

Men often struggle to form meaningful friendships, with many experiencing a “friendship recession.” Our cultural and emotional conditioning can discourage vulnerability — but true strength comes from support, not isolation.

Safety is foundational to building deep relationships. Group confidentiality is key (except in cases of harm to self or others).

CHECKING IN

Go around the group and introduce yourself. Choose one question to answer:

• Is there anything you’d like to share from your personal reflection time since your last group meeting?

• How would you define and describe the kind of safety needed for you to trust other group members with your story and your true self?

• When have you recently felt unsafe in a situation with others? What red flags cause you to feel unsafe in group settings?

EXPLORING THE BIG IDEA

Safety is a fundamental human need. However, many of us have experienced situations that damaged our ability to trust. As you try to build relationships, pay attention to what helps you feel safe and what triggers alarm.

Discussion Questions:

• Do you trust others easily, or are you more cautious or skeptical? How long does it take before you’re willing to trust someone?

• What’s one scene from your childhood or adolescence that continues to influence whether or not you feel safe with other people?

CONSIDERING THE WORD

Colossians 3:12-17

“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”

Discussion Questions:

1. What does it mean for you to “clothe yourself with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience”?

2. What other qualities would you add in order to promote safety within your group?

3. When have you been disappointed in the reception and response of other men you trusted with something personal you shared?

4. What does it mean for peace to rule in your heart as you listen and respond to other men?

5. How does gratitude for the other men in your group influence how you relate and respond to them?

DISCUSSING THE TRUTH

Think about a time you felt emotionally connected to a male friend. What contributed to feeling safe and valued in that friendship? If you’ve never had such a friend, reflect on why that might be. Consider what elements contribute to safety in your relationships today.

Key Elements for Promoting Safety:

• Respecting Boundaries – Allow others to share at their own pace.

• Active Listening – Give full attention without fixing, judging, or interrupting.

• Risking Vulnerability – Share openly without manipulation or deceit.

• Suspending Judgment – Respond with grace, curiosity, and empathy.

• Confidentiality – What’s shared in the group stays in the group.

• Follow-Through – Remember details, pray for each other, and check in outside of meetings.

Discussion Questions:

• Which of the elements for promoting safety stand out to you? Why are they especially important for you?

• Which elements might be difficult for you at first and require intentional practice? Which elements come easier for you?

• What fears, concerns, or questions do you have about promoting safety within your group? What do you need to address now to help you take appropriate risks moving forward?

WRAP-UP DISCUSSION

• What stands out to you about promoting safety in this group? Why?

• What’s one fear or area of concern you would like the other men to keep in mind as you begin sharing your story? What do you need from them to feel safe?

CLOSING IN PRAYER (5 MINUTES)

• Share any prayer requests.

• Pray together, thanking God for bringing this group together.

• Ask for wisdom, compassion, and courage in sharing and receiving each other’s stories.

• Pray for protection from the enemy and for the strengthening of new connections in this group.

Session 3: Forge Brotherhood

OPENING (10 MINS)

• Welcome and any announcements

• Introductions if there is someone who was not at the first session

• Quick guidelines review

WEEKLY DISCUSSION (45 MINUTES)

Opening Quote:

“We must learn to live together as brothers or perish together as fools.”

—Martin Luther King, Jr.

GETTING STARTED

We not only crave meaningful individual friendships with other men—we want to belong to a group. Whether it’s a team, a tribe, a squad, a committee, a club, a frat, a pack, or a company, we want to fit in a group where we feel welcome. Finding others with whom we connect, however, can be harder than it sounds. Many of us have learned that we must uphold the “bro code” to avoid appearing weak, needy, or less manly.

Many men can bond over shared interests but struggle to go deeper. True brotherhood is forged through vulnerability, confession, accountability, and encouragement. Because Christian brotherhood is forged when iron sharpens iron.

CHECKING IN

Ask participants to go around the group, reminding others of their name and where they are from. Have them answer one of the following questions:

• What would you like to share from your between-sessions study last week? What continues to linger from your last session?

• What are some of the groups you currently belong to or have been part of in the past? Which ones did you enjoy the most? Why?

EXPLORING THE BIG IDEA

Last session, we emphasized that one of the core values for The Redeemed is to forge brotherhood among men. Authentic relationships are our lifeblood. However, forging relationships requires coming together under fire. Just as a blacksmith forges iron into a tool with intense heat, true brotherhood is forged through courage, honesty, and commitment.

Four Components of Brotherhood:

• Participation – We actively support and learn from each other. (Ecclesiastes 4:10)

• Confession – We share our struggles and strengthen our bond. (James 5:16)

• Accountability – We hold each other accountable for positive growth. (Proverbs 27:17)

• Encouragement – We lift each other up and celebrate successes. (1 Thessalonians 5:11)

Discussion Questions:

• What other factors do you believe help facilitate true brotherhood? How have you experienced these in past groups?

• When you think of “forging brotherhood,” what images, thoughts, and feelings come to mind? Are there any stories, novels, movies, or TV shows that depict true brotherhood?

CONSIDERING THE WORD

Luke 6:37-42

“‘Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.’

“He also told them this parable: ‘Can the blind lead the blind? Will they not both fall into a pit? The student is not above the teacher, but everyone who is fully trained will be like their teacher.’

“‘Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, “Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,” when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.’”

Discussion Questions:

• What does it mean, “For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you”? How have you experienced this dynamic in your life?

• What attitude or posture is required in order to focus on the plank in your own eye rather than the speck in your brother’s? What motivates you to focus on the flaws of others rather than your own?

• When have you experienced hypocrisy in a friendship with another man? When have you been guilty of being hypocritical when relating to a brother?

DISCUSSING THE TRUTH

God intends for us to be part of a community that helps each other lead lives of integrity. However, men often struggle with openness and honesty. Instead of comparing, competing, or showing off, we must practice key relational qualities that contribute to forging brotherhood:

1. Intentional Attention – Actively listen and engage with others. (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)

2. Courageous Vulnerability – Share struggles honestly and openly. (James 5:16)

3. Sincere Humility – Show acceptance, kindness, and compassion.

4. Gracious Honesty – Speak the truth with love and grace. (John 8:1-11)

5. Generous Encouragement – Lift up and support one another. (1 Thessalonians 5:11)

Discussion Questions:

• When have you bonded with other men through a shared goal or activity? Which elements described above can you identify in that experience?

• Which of these qualities stands out to you as something you value highly and need to grow in your relationship with God and with other men? Why does this one stand out?

• Which of these heart perspectives seem daunting or challenging for you to practice? How can the other men in your group help you grow in this area?

WRAP-UP DISCUSSION

• How would you sum up your past experiences forging brotherhood with other men? How do those experiences influence your expectations for bonding with the men in your group?

• What’s one attitude, mindset, or expectation you need to let go of in order to open up to the other men in your group? How can they help you in this process?

CLOSING IN PRAYER (5 MINUTES)

Go around the group and share any prayer requests. Then, pray for those requests together. Give thanks for each man in your group, and if possible, identify one thing you’re especially thankful for about them. Pray for strength to open your hearts to one another, growing together toward a deeper faith as you follow Jesus.

Session 4: Awaken Your True Self

OPENING (10 MINS)

• Welcome and any announcements

WEEKLY DISCUSSION (45 MINUTES)

Opening Quote

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”

— Carl Jung

GETTING STARTED

• Discuss the struggle between desiring deep relationships and fearing vulnerability.

• Explore the impact of shame versus guilt and how they shape our identity.

• Emphasize the importance of recognizing false beliefs and embracing God’s truth.

• Highlight the role of community in helping each other awaken to our true selves.

CHECKING IN

• What would you like to share from your between-sessions study last week? What continues to linger from your last session?

• On a scale of 1 to 10, how aware do you feel of your true self? Briefly explain your score.

EXPLORING THE BIG IDEA

This section is focused on understanding the narratives we tell ourselves and how they shape our perspective. Remind participants of the dangers of avoiding self-reflection and relying on unhealthy coping mechanisms. We need exposure (walking in the light) and affirmation (recognizing our God-given identity).

CONSIDERING THE WORD

1 John 1:7

But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin.

Ephesians 2:10

For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.

Discussion Questions:

• What’s holding you back from sharing more of your authentic self with the group?

• Do you struggle more with knowing your true self or with risking vulnerability?

• What are some unique ways God has gifted you to live out your divine purpose? How can you use these gifts to bless the group?
Considering the Word

Psalm 139:1-6, 13-16

You have searched me, Lord, and you know me.

You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar.

You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways.

Before a word is on my tongue you, Lord, know it completely.

You hem me in behind and before, and you lay your hand upon me.

Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too lofty for me to attain.

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.

Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.

Discussion Questions:

• How do you feel when you consider how intimately God knows and created you? Why?

• How does knowing you are wonderfully and fearfully made challenge the fears, insecurities, and doubts you harbor?

• How can your group members help you see what God says is true about you more clearly?

DISCUSSING THE TRUTH

Many of us can struggle with believing we are truly redeemed. It is important to embrace our new identity in Christ rather than defining ourselves by past sins and failures.

Consider sharing a testimony of transformation through vulnerability and community.

2 Corinthians 5:17 (ESV)

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

Jeremiah 17:9 (KJV)

The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked:

who can know it?

(Note: contrast this with our redeemed hearts)

Ephesians 4:21-24 (NLT)

Since you have heard about Jesus and have learned the truth that comes from him, throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy.

Discussion Questions:

• Have you tended to focus more on your sin and failures or on your redemption and purpose? How can you remain awake to your true self?

• How has this group helped you discover more of who God made you to be?

• What difference does it make knowing you’re not alone in your struggles?

• Is there anything you’ve been holding back that you’re now ready to share with the group?

WRAP-UP ACTIVITY

Go around the group and share your answers to the following:

• What do you need from the group members to remain awake to your true self? How can they help you walk in the light?

• What’s one false belief about yourself you’re now willing to renounce? What is the truth that counters this false belief?

CLOSING IN PRAYER (5 MINS)

• Share any prayer requests and pray together.

• Praise God for his love and for making each person uniquely.

• Ask for strength, courage, and wisdom to walk in the truth of their redeemed identity.

Session 5: Live by the Unbreakable Code

OPENING (10 MINS)

• Welcome and any announcements

WEEKLY DISCUSSION (45 MINUTES)

Opening Quote

“To what greater inspiration and counsel can we turn than to the imperishable truth to be found in this treasure house, the Bible?”

— Queen Elizabeth II

GETTING STARTED

Think for a moment about the core beliefs of your faith. Among them, you probably consider the Bible to be foundational, revealing who God is and what He considers important. Within its pages, the Bible reveals its supernatural power to inform, instruct, inspire, and illuminate:

Psalm 119:105

“Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.”

The truth of Scripture is dynamic, timeless, and revelatory:

Hebrews 4:12

“For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.”

However, sometimes we can end up viewing Scripture primarily as a guidebook of rules and commandments. When we see Scripture this way, that can tilt us towards focusing on performance rather than relationship in our faith.

Ephesians 2:8-9

“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast.”

God’s love, not his wrath, motivates all the ways he relates to us. The Bible reveals that we should consider him as a kindhearted Father rather than a legalistic judge:

Romans 8:15

“The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, ‘Abba, Father.’”

CHECKING IN

Go around the group and check in by answering one or both of the following questions:

1. What would you like to share from your between-sessions study last week? What has resonated with you since the last session?

2. What kind of Bible do you use more often—electronic (such as YouVersion) or hard copy (the kind with a cover and paper pages)? Which translation tends to be a favorite?

EXPLORING THE BIG IDEA

Even when experiencing God’s grace, we often remain mired in our shame, entangled in false beliefs and lies from the enemy. To counteract this, we employ a three-pronged strategy:

1. Identify the lies in our life and challenge false beliefs with Scripture:

“We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” (2 Corinthians 10:5)

“Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.” (1 Corinthians 13:6)

2. Live out our true identity as forgiven men and beloved sons:

“For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” (Ephesians 2:10)

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” (Psalm 139:13-14)

3. Renew our minds and transform our perspectives with God’s truth:

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Romans 12:2)

Discussion Questions:

• What thoughts and feelings rise up in you as you consider this three-pronged approach?

• Is this approach something you’ve experienced or tried before? What did you learn about yourself and God from your past efforts?

CONSIDERING THE WORD

2 Corinthians 10:3-5

“For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”

Discussion Questions:

• What word, phrase, or image catches your attention in this passage? Why?

• What does it look like to “take every thought captive to make it obedient to Christ”?

• What are some arguments in your thinking that contradict God’s love, grace, and truth?

DISCUSSING THE TRUTH

Paul describes our battle in spiritual terms, highlighting that we must use supernatural weapons:

Ephesians 1:19-20

“I also pray that you will understand the incredible greatness of God’s power for us who believe him. This is the same mighty power that raised Christ from the dead.”

Romans 13:12

“The night is nearly over; the day is almost here. So let us put aside the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light.”

Discussion Questions:

• How have you tended to fight your life’s battles in the past? What weapons or tools did you typically rely on?

• When have you experienced God’s supernatural power equipping you to overcome temptation or win a spiritual battle?

• How does having access to resurrection power cause you to see your struggles differently?

WRAP-UP ACTIVITY

Go around the group and share your answers to the following questions:

• How do you view the Bible differently now than when you first became a believer? What has caused you to change the way you see it?

• How do you avoid getting caught up in the performance trap? What are some practices that help you live out of God’s grace and remind you of His unconditional love?

CLOSING IN PRAYER (5 MINS)

As you go around the group, share at least one prayer request and then pray together. Thank God for his unconditional love and grace, and ask him to empower you with supernatural resurrection power to break strongholds and renew your mind in truth.

Session 6: Ignite Your Fire

OPENING (10 MINS)

• Welcome and any announcements

WEEKLY DISCUSSION (45 MINUTES)

Opening Quote

“When we come to [Jesus] with our needs, when we realize that we can bring our emptiness to him, we’re finally in a place where we can see his power at work in us.”

—Max Lucado

GETTING STARTED

It’s never too late to change, and it’s never too late to ignite your fire and live with purpose and passion.

Growth into spiritual maturity requires reliance on God’s power and authentic community. We can shift from performing, posturing, and pleasing to trusting God and living in truth. Overcome destructive habits by embracing God’s love, grace, and power. Real change happens through connection to God and other believers. Let go of the past and step into the truth and love of God.

CHECKING IN

Discussion Questions:

• What’s one thing you would like to share from your between-sessions study last week? How has God been moving in your life since the last session?

• What’s a long-term goal you’ve achieved? How did that journey impact you?

EXPLORING THE BIG IDEA

Real change is possible and powerful — and it happens through Christ’s sacrifice. Your new identity in Christ leads to freedom and renewal. Walking in faith means leaving the past behind and fixing your eyes on Jesus. Living an embodied faith honors God and sustains transformation.

Key Scriptures:

Romans 5:10

“For if, while we were God’s enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of his Son, how much more, having been reconciled, shall we be saved through his life!”

Galatians 2:20

“I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.”

1 Corinthians 6:20

“You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”

Discussion Questions:

1. What’s one negative perception, bad attitude, or destructive behavior that has changed in you since beginning this group?

2. What part of your story have you been withholding? Would you be willing to share?

CONSIDERING THE WORD

1 Corinthians 3:10-16

“By the grace God has given me, I laid a foundation as a wise builder, and someone else is building on it. But each one should build with care. For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ. If anyone builds on this foundation using gold, silver, costly stones, wood, hay or straw, their work will be shown for what it is, because the Day will bring it to light. It will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test the quality of each person’s work. If what has been built survives, the builder will receive a reward. If it is burned up, the builder will suffer loss but yet will be saved—even though only as one escaping through the flames. Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in your midst?”

Matthew 7:24-27

“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.”

Discussion Questions:

1. What kind of house best symbolizes your spiritual life right now?

2. Why will relying on your own efforts always leave your spiritual house vulnerable?

3. What needs to change in your life to keep your house on solid ground?

DISCUSSING THE TRUTH

Spiritual combustion requires fuel, heat, and oxygen. Knowledge alone is not enough; transformation needs power. The Holy Spirit is our sustaining power.

John 14:16-17

“And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you forever—the Spirit of truth.”

Acts 1:5

“For John baptized with water, but in a few days you will be baptized with the Holy Spirit.”

Acts 1:8

“But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes upon you.”

Acts 2:3-4

“Then, what looked like flames or tongues of fire appeared and settled on each of them. And everyone present was filled with the Holy Spirit.”

Discussion Questions:

1. What has your understanding and experience of the Holy Spirit been up until this point?

2. How have you experienced the presence of the Holy Spirit helping you in your journey?

3. How does relying on God’s Spirit keep the fire of your passion and purpose burning?

WRAP-UP ACTIVITY

Go around the group and share your answers to the following questions:

1. Where do you see evidence of the Holy Spirit working in the lives of your group members?

2. What’s one area in which you want more of the Spirit’s power?

CLOSING IN PRAYER (5 MINS)

• Share prayer requests and updates.

• Thank God for the ways his Spirit has been working.

• Seek his protection as you continue pursuing integrity and wholeness.

FINAL ENCOURAGEMENT:

Continue seeking God daily, embracing the power of the Holy Spirit, and living in truth, freedom, and community. Ignite the fire within and step fully into the life God has for you!

Session 7: Create Room for Others

OPENING (10 MINS)

• Welcome and any announcements

WEEKLY DISCUSSION (45 MINUTES)

Opening Quote

“Skill at helping people grow spiritually, like skill at playing chess, depends on understanding and valuing differences.”

—John Ortberg

GETTING STARTED

As humans, we want to belong, and being excluded hurts. In particular, there is a historical tendency to exclude those who are different from us. But Christians are called to follow Jesus’ example by welcoming everyone.

Galatians 3:26-28

“So in Christ Jesus you are all children of God through faith, for all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”

CHECKING IN

• What would you like to share from your between-sessions study last week? How has God’s Spirit been working in your life since the last session?

• When have you felt excluded, or at least not included, by a group that you wanted to belong to? Why do you suspect that you were not part of this particular group?

EXPLORING THE BIG IDEA

Discuss the importance of expanding our community and not isolating ourselves, and talk about the Great Commission as a call to welcome others.

Matthew 28:19-20

“All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

Discussion Questions:

• How has the way you see the other men in your group changed since your first session together?

• How have the other men in the group helped you to feel welcome and included? How have you tried to show them the same?

CONSIDERING THE WORD

Scripture Reading: Luke 19:1-10

“Jesus entered Jericho and was passing through. A man was there by the name of Zacchaeus; he was a chief tax collector and was wealthy. He wanted to see who Jesus was, but being a short man he could not, because of the crowd. So he ran ahead and climbed a sycamore-fig tree to see him, since Jesus was coming that way.

“When Jesus reached the spot, he looked up and said to him, ‘Zacchaeus, come down immediately. I must stay at your house today.’ So he came down at once and welcomed him gladly.

“All the people saw this and began to mutter, ‘He has gone to be the guest of a “sinner.”’

“But Zacchaeus stood up and said to the Lord, ‘Look, Lord! Here and now I give half of my possessions to the poor, and if I have cheated anybody out of anything, I will pay back four times the amount.’

“Jesus said to him, ‘Today salvation has come to this house, because this man, too, is a son of Abraham. For the Son of Man came to seek and to save what was lost.’”

Discussion Questions:

• Based on how Zacchaeus is described in this passage, why do you suppose he might feel like an outsider? What details here provide evidence that he lacked community?

• Why do you imagine Jesus engaged with Zacchaeus this way? When have you been surprised by the warm, sincere way someone invited you to join them after noticing you were alone?

• Why does being seen and accepted for who you are, differences and all, have such a powerful impact? How can this awareness motivate you to reach out to others more often?

DISCUSSING THE TRUTH

We are called to love others as Jesus loves us, even when it’s difficult — not only those like us, but even those who challenge us.

John 13:34-35

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

Matthew 5:43-48

“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”

Discussion Questions:

• How would you describe your experiences with being part of a community in your adult life so far? Have you spent more time in a healthy community or out of it?

• Similar to Zacchaeus climbing up in the sycamore tree to spy Jesus passing by, when have you hidden your longing to connect with a potential friend? How did you hide or what did you hide behind?

• What word, phrase, or image stands out to you in the story of Zacchaeus? In Jesus’s command to love those different from us, including our enemies?

WRAP-UP ACTIVITY

Go around the group and share your answers to the following questions:

• How have the other men in this group created space for you to be yourself and belong? What has surprised you most about the way you interact with them?

• What big idea or point resonates with you most right now? Why do you suppose it stands out?

Closing in Prayer (5 mins)

• Share prayer requests and updates on past requests.

• Pray for each other’s needs, both silently and aloud.

• Thank God for the ways he has worked through this group.

• Bless one another by naming something you appreciate about each person.

• Ask for the Spirit’s guidance in fostering love, unity, and inclusion.

Session 8: Be Consistent and Continual

OPENING (10 MINS)

• Welcome and any announcements

WEEKLY DISCUSSION (45 MINUTES)

Opening Quote

“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.”

– Walter Winchell

GETTING STARTED

Discuss the transient nature of friendships over time and encouragement to pursue intentional and consistent relationships, particularly local and in-person connections.

Key takeaways:

• Discovering your identity in Christ and your God-given purpose.

• Building honest, vulnerable, and accountable relationships.

CHECKING IN

• What would you like to share from your between-sessions study last week? What has continued to linger with you since your previous group meeting?

• What’s one thing that has changed, or has started to shift, in how you view yourself since starting this group? What (and who) has contributed to this change or shift?

EXPLORING THE BIG IDEA

Growth in faith is an ongoing process (sanctification). Change is inevitable, but community provides stability.

Authentic relationships refine us: “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another” (Proverbs 27:17).

Discussion Questions:

• What thoughts and feelings rise up as you consider the mission of The Redeemed?

• What stirs a sense of hope and longing about being part of such a community? What leads to fear, anxiety, or insecurity?

• Which of the five core values resonates with you most right now? Why is it especially important for you at this time?

CONSIDERING THE WORD

1 Corinthians 12:12-27 (NLT)

“The human body has many parts, but the many parts make up one whole body. So it is with the body of Christ. Some of us are Jews, some are Gentiles, some are slaves, and some are free. But we have all been baptized into one body by one Spirit, and we all share the same Spirit.

“Yes, the body has many different parts, not just one part. If the foot says, ‘I am not a part of the body because I am not a hand,’ that does not make it any less a part of the body. “And if the ear says, ‘I am not part of the body because I am not an eye,’ would that make it any less a part of the body? If the whole body were an eye, how would you hear? Or if your whole body were an ear, how would you smell anything?

“But our bodies have many parts, and God has put each part just where he wants it. How strange a body would be if it had only one part! Yes, there are many parts, but only one body.

“The eye can never say to the hand, ‘I don’t need you.’ The head can’t say to the feet, ‘I don’t need you.’

“In fact, some parts of the body that seem weakest and least important are actually the most necessary. And the parts we regard as less honorable are those we clothe with the greatest care. So we carefully protect those parts that should not be seen, while the more honorable parts do not require this special care. So God has put the body together such that extra honor and care are given to those parts that have less dignity.

“This makes for harmony among the members, so that all the members care for each other. If one part suffers, all the parts suffer with it, and if one part is honored, all the parts are glad. “All of you together are Christ’s body, and each of you is a part of it.”

Discussion Questions:

• If you compared yourself to a physical part of the human body, what would you choose? How are you like that particular body part?

• When have you wished you were more like someone else to experience a greater sense of belonging and community? What have you since realized about what you have to contribute to others?

• On a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being “no more connected than when we started” and 10 being “closer than a brother,” how would you rate your sense of connection in this group? Explain your answer.

DISCUSSING THE TRUTH

• Attachment science and its role in relationships

• Secure, anxious, avoidant, and ambivalent attachment styles

• Recognizing past wounds and learning healthier ways to relate

Discussion Questions:

• Have you explored attachment styles before? What have you learned about your patterns of relating?

• Considering your childhood, which of your emotional needs often went unmet? What assumptions did you form based on how others related to you?

• Which relational style (secure, anxious, avoidant, ambivalent) generally reflects how you relate in significant relationships? How has this manifested in your interactions with this group?

WRAP-UP ACTIVITY

Go around the group and share your answers to the following questions:

• What feelings are stirring as you consider this group only has one more session? What’s prompting those feelings?

• What’s one way you would like to change how you relate to others in significant relationships? How would this change improve your ability to connect?

CLOSING IN PRAYER (5 MINS)

• Each member shares a personal prayer request about their takeaway from this group.

• Pray together, thanking God for the relationships built and seeking his guidance in continuing authentic community.

Session 9: Support the Game Plan

OPENING (10 MINS)

• Welcome and any announcements

• Discuss next steps since this is the last group meeting

WEEKLY DISCUSSION (45 MINUTES)

Opening Quote

“Christian community is the place where we keep the flame of hope alive among us and take it seriously so that it can grow and become stronger in us.”

—Henri Nouwen

GETTING STARTED

Discussion Questions:

• Can you think of a time you unexpectedly received an upgrade, bonus, or perk? How did it feel to receive more than you expected?

• Have you had an experience in this group where your expectations were exceeded? Share your thoughts.

CHECKING IN

Go around the group and answer one or both of the following:

• What three words best describe your experience in this group over the past weeks? Briefly explain.

• What’s one of the best unexpected upgrades or surprise perks you’ve ever received? How did it feel?

EXPLORING THE BIG IDEA

Discussion Questions:

• Looking at the five core values (Awaken Your True Self, Forge Brotherhood, Ignite Your Fire, Promote Safety, Live by the Word), which ones have you experienced most powerfully in this group?

• Which of these values do you want to experience more deeply?

• How would you describe your between-session video calls with other men in your group? What have you learned about communicating honestly and vulnerably?

CONSIDERING THE WORD

Ephesians 4:11-16

“So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ. Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of people in their deceitful scheming. Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.”

Discussion Questions:

• How do we become more mature in our faith according to this passage?

• What role do we play in helping one another grow and mature?

• When did someone “speak the truth in love” to you in this group? How did their words impact you?

• What do you need from the other men in order to continue feeling known, accepted, and loved? How can you sustain your connection?

DISCUSSING THE TRUTH

Discussion Questions:

• What thoughts and feelings are stirring inside you as this group study ends? Why do you think you feel this way?

• How are you a better man—more honest, open, connected, courageous—than when you began this group?

• How have the other men helped you be more of the man God created you to be?

• What are some ways you plan to stay connected to the men in your group?

• How can you also pursue in-person relationships with other men? Brainstorm ways to maintain your momentum.

WRAP-UP ACTIVITY

Go around the group and share your answers to the following questions:

• Which of the previous sessions had the most powerful impact on you? What did you experience in that session that made such a difference?

• What’s one specific goal or intention you’re setting for remaining connected to authentic community?

• How would you like the other men to support and encourage you in this endeavor?

CLOSING IN PRAYER (5 MINS)

• Share prayer requests and updates.

• Thank God for each man in the group and the journey you have taken together.

• Ask the Spirit to guide and protect each of you moving forward, keeping your hearts connected in pursuit of being all God made you to be.