
Do You Know Who Your True Friends Are?
How do you know which of your friendships are real, and which are built on performance, convenience, or what you can do for one another?

How do you know which of your friendships are real, and which are built on performance, convenience, or what you can do for one another?

His 30th birthday was just around the corner, and Nigel Darius was at a crossroads. He felt like he’d worked hard and done the right things in his twenties, but he didn’t have anything to show for it. He asked God for a new path and a new opportunity, but when God asked him, “Do you believe I can give them to you?” he realized the answer was “No.” Or perhaps more accurately, “Not yet.”

In John 14, Jesus tells his disciples: “If you love me, keep my commands.”

Let’s face it, obedience isn’t a fun topic for most of us. Between an American ethos that prizes individualism and innovation, a culture that pushes indulgence, and a natural human desire to be free from control, we don’t like to feel compelled to follow anyone else’s rules. So how do we break down that resistance and embrace obedience to God? And how can we build in ourselves a desire to heed God’s word, rather than just doing so out of grudging obligation?

Micah Davis has more experience with forgiveness than he probably ever wanted to have. The hurtful words spoken over him as a child that stuck with him throughout adolescence, the betrayals by both his father and his godfather, the family secrets that only came to light years later—all of them forced Micah to confront emotional pain at a relatively early age and weigh the cost of reconciliation.

For 17 years Jason Romano had what many American men would consider a dream job: working at ESPN producing shows ranging from College Gameday to Monday Night Football broadcasts. So why did he leave it behind to make less money at a startup podcast? For Jason, it was simple: he realized he was drawing too much of his identity from work and not enough from Christ.

Biblical brotherhood isn’t primarily built around shared hobbies, watching the game together, or grabbing breakfast once a month. Those have value, but they aren’t what Scripture has in mind when it calls us to love one another. Jesus never called us to admire one another from a distance; he instructed us to “carry each other’s burdens” (Galatians 6:2). That’s up-close and hands-on—we can’t be that kind of brother in Christ from the sidelines.
At least, that’s the story we tell ourselves.

Pastor, author, and scholar Terry Parkman shares his thoughts on the generational change the church is currently undergoing, overcoming distraction and self-doubt, and making prayer a regular, meaningful part of our lives.
Paul Amos and Nate Dewberry have an in-depth discussion on prayer—how we approach it, what distracts us from it, and how we can have more meaningful, fulfilling conversations with God.
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